Relationships

What your relationships with others will be like depends solely on you. Even when the relationship others have with you is not the way you think it should be, your relationship with every individual nonetheless depends solely on you.
That’s because it’s up to you whether you’ll continue that relationship, deepen it, understand it and elevate it, or bring it down; thus, everyone has the right to make that decision on their part.
It’s difficult to understand everyone around you and get along with each of them, but you don’t even need to. That’s why people come into and go out of your life, bringing with them or taking away with them something that you need or don’t need at the time.
And in return, you give them your own gifts. Everything you give each other is a gift, which, after the initial surprise once you’ve opened it, takes you down a new path you otherwise wouldn’t have found yourself on. And that’s where you continue your

growth through life.
Not all the relationships you have in your life are of equal value. Some are stronger and stay with you for years, perhaps even for an entire lifetime, while others are fleeting like a gentle breeze which softly scatters leaves around the yard, and then leaves, without anyone in that yard perhaps ever remembering it again. But at the time, it did exactly what the yard needed—it blew through it and invigorated it, bringing in a freshness, a new outlook, and new colours.
Don’t regret the loss of any single relationship in your life. All of them were here and will be here only because you need them. When you’re happy, allow the joy to come over you and give you wings to continue. When you’re sad, allow the sorrow to fill you up and show you those things you need to pay attention to right now. Both are equally valuable.
In each of you, there’s that same thread which connects you with that which you’ve come from, with the energy you were created with. Through that thread, you can communicate at a higher level, through that thread, you can understand others in a way you can never understand through mental and verbal communication. That’s the same thread with which you understand yourself and which gives you a sense of “home”.
So, try to look at people “with your eyes closed”, meaning: Don’t look at them, don’t listen to them, just feel them. What you feel then is “the real state of things”; it’s what binds you or doesn’t bind you in any given moment; it’s what brings you sorrow or brings you joy. When you feel that, you’ll more easily see all the other ties to that person, and you’ll understand why your relationship with them is the way it is, why it exists, and what it is that you’re supposed to learn from it.
If all of you could communicate in that way, after a while, there would be no need for verbal communication. You’d be the perfect beings that you are, in an imperfect world which is only here to show you your perfection.
The next time you communicate with someone, try to feel that person’s energy, what they’re radiating, and what it is you’re feeling while they’re radiating it. Allow your being to explore, to understand the fundamental values of the relationship, to build castles where they need to be built and to keep going when paths open up. Allow your feelings to understand what the mind can’t, and you’ll then live the way your soul expects of you—with stillness and passion, simultaneously.